You probably experienced the immense frustration whenever your man says he needs some alone time to get out and “cool his head.” Now, we women can feel strong emotions but can still think rationally and assume any mature adult human being can too.

Not so, Feldhan’s research found! Since men apparently can’t think rationally while feeling strong emotions, they automatically assume and believe that women behave the same way!

It’s not a “fault” per se. Just a different perception.

So how do you use this knowledge to deal with your man?

If your man is feeling strong emotions, then let him have the time to cool his head and reign his emotions so he can calmly discuss things again. Be patient.

If you are feeling strong emotions and want to talk to him, first of all calm yourself down! At least appear to in front of your man. Let him see that you want to discuss rationally “without any strong, confusing emotions to muddle your brain.” If you see yourself feeling strong emotions that threaten to show themselves to your man in middle of important conversation, CONTROL them from appearing in your behavior. Take time off to “cool your head” if it helps.

Remember, what’s important is to communicate calmly to resolve a *problem*. Now this problem might involve heavy emotions but that doesn’t mean displaying them strongly in your behavior to your man will help you resolve the problem! So keep this in mind when you try to discuss important matters with your man.